Weight, who needs it?!

Who really loves the scale? Especially when you're pregnant?!

I was thinking back today about my first pregnancy and what I was doing around this time with my first, and I remembered that this week was the turning point in my first pregnancy. I had been going to a doctor that I didn't love, but dealt with because I didn't know any better. He was one of those doctors that had been a doctor for so long that he forgot to be understanding to a first time mother. Really, he was probably about to retirement, but that doesn't excuse his behavior. Up until my appointment at 24 weeks, I hadn't had any problems with weight, although I already had problems with him as a doctor. He never stayed in the room to answer questions, or ask how I was feeling, and as you well know from this blog, that's a big problem for me. I mean, how hard is it for the doctor to ask "Okay, do you have any questions?" You would think it would become an easy habit to form.

Anyway, this particular week was the breaking point for me. I was lucky enough in my first pregnancy to have a hubby that was able to go to all my appointments with me. So we went and the nurse got me on the dreaded scale and said to me "Wow, 9 pounds! That's a really big weight gain for one month. You really shouldn't have gained that much weight, considering your starting weight. So to correct that, you need to stop eating all the junk food you eat. Okay?" I was... speechless! That's just not something you say to a pregnant woman!

She takes me into the exam room and the doctor comes in and the first thing out of his mouth was "9 pounds is way too much weight to gain in one month. So you need to cut out all the junk food from your diet, eat less, and exercise. I expect that next month we won't have this problem again. Okay on to your exam."

What! Okay, did you hear anywhere in there where they actually asked me what I was eating? No. They just assumed that it was all junk. And don't get me wrong, I wasn't the best at always eating healthy, but who is! And it's not like I was stuffing Twinkies in my mouth 3 times a day. Both Bo and I were just... speechless (I can't think of a better word)!! We left the office, I was in tears, and his first comment to me when we got in the car, "You're switching doctors!" I couldn't believe they called me fat to my face. And I don't really think that I was that heavy to begin with. Give me a break, I'm 5'9", so it's not like I'm going to be weighing 110! It was one of the worst doctor experiences I've ever had! I went back to work that day in tears and ranted to all my coworkers about the horrible doctor I had.

I stressed for a week about finding a new doctor and then by chance a referral just fell into my lap, so I thought I'd try them out. I ended up really liking my new doctors office. My first appointment with them was my week 28 appointment where they do your glucose test and I got my Rhogam shot. The doctor spent at least 20 minutes with us, part of the time just acting human and shootin' the breeze. It was again a group practice, and the first doctor I met wasn't actually the doctor I had been referred to, but he actually happened to be the one I delivered with. So I liked that he was very personable.

I fully believe that you have to find a doctor that fits your personality, I needed one to make me feel at easy and that they cared about my small concerns. And part of my problem could've been the simple fact that it was my first pregnancy, so I needed a doctor that understood just how freaked out I was. I wished I would've found them first and never had to deal with that horrible doctor.

After I decided to switch, before my first appointment with the new doctor, I had to get my records transferred over. The horrible doctors office called me to ask why I had switched:
Nurse: We received a request to transfer your records to another doctors office today, is that correct?
Me: Yep.
Nurse: *silence* ....Okay, will you be switching doctors permanently?
Me: Yes.
Nurse: *more silence* ....Well was there a problem? We like to know why our patients are leaving? Did you have a problem with someone in the office?
Me: *close to tears because I'm pregnant and don't handle confrontation well* Yes... *deep breath* ...My last appointment was awful. The nurse and the doctor were both very rude to me. The doctor never spent enough time with me the whole time I've been coming. He never answered my questions, and I need a doctor who is going to take the time to care about me and my pregnancy. *sniff*
Nurse: *stunned, I'm sure* ....Okay, well, okay, I'll get these sent to your new office.
Me: Yeah. Bye. *and I hung up before more tears came out.*

I will admit that I was really emotional during my first pregnancy. Most pregnant women are emotional! And maybe I overreacted to their fat comments a bit, but really I didn't need a doctor that wasn't going to invest time into my needs and concerns, besides he could've addressed my weight in a way that didn't make me feel two inches tall. At least for my first pregnancy I need a doctor who was more personable and caring. This time around, I know more what to expect, so having a doctor that doesn't ask about every little thing is okay. But I still stand by my statement in saying that doctors should always ask "do you have any questions?" It's just common courtesy really! Am I wrong?!

I really haven't struggled with weight this pregnancy, and I haven't really pinned down the reason why that is. But I will tell you, even though I've not "technically" gained any weight, my clothes still don't really fit. I've been keeping track of my weight on the side of my blog, as you can see I'm back to the weight I was at my first appointment, but "technically" I've gained 10 pounds. Was every one's second pregnancy different as far as weight gain? I always thought you gained more with your second! Or is it the fact that I'm having a boy instead of a girl? Anyone?

Speaking of pregnancy pants, where do you buy good pregnancy pants? For tall people! I ordered some from Old Navy the other day, got them in the mail and tried them on. They fit fine, so I took the tags off and went to try them on again and they ripped! So I sent them back. But I am really in need of ordering some pants, I wear my overalls and comfy lounge pants everyday, and I need more pants!